Ни о какой безапелляционности в моих высказываниях не может быть и речи!

In my own speech, I'm pretty sure I use "whom" only after prepositions ("To whom did you give it?" -- though I'd be more likely to say "Who did you give it to?"). The attempt to preserve it as a general object pronoun is pretty funny.

Steve
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